Monday, February 22, 2010


i am stealing this from my friend Jordan's blog (jordan on the raw)... but i liked it and it kinda goes with my last post about relationships. He was at a college retreat and this was one of the teachings... i especially like #2 & #9

10 Commandments of Relationships:

1. Guys are the initiators and girls are the responders. Proverbs 18:22. Every lady known as an initiator of relationship in the bible was a whore.

2. Getting coffee does not equal marriage. Going on a date does not even mean you’re dating. Do not put your expectations on coffee.

3. Get a vision for the end before you begin. End meaning the start of your marriage, the alter… Get a vision for where you want to be financially, with your purity, how much baggage you want to bring into the relationship. Habakkuk 2:2, 1 Tim 5:8

4. When on a date guys should make it a goal to ask more questions than talk about themselves. James 1:14. Do not be dogmatic or opinionated, but rather open to new things.

5. Godly relationships stir you to pursue Jesus never to pull away. If a relationship begins to take you away from the church, your small group, and Godly accountability found in covenant friendship it is ungodly.

6. Keep your relationship in the light. 1 John 1:7

7. Guys need to lead the relationship. Lines are to be drawn, not discovered. Guys need to draw those lines and yet not be driven by a spirit of legalism. We are grace people.

8. How far is to far is the wrong question. It should be more like how much can I please God in this relationship. If you can hold her hand without going to bed in your mind then hold her hand. For some you may just need to high five it up for a while. Others kissing is okay… not a set rule.

9. Let the relationship happen naturally, do not force it. Say hello>get to know>be a bro>let it grow>give it a go>don’t be so slow.

10. Be confident and have a sense of humor.


Vicky said...

That list is great!

I liked the catchy rhyme of #9, but the "high five it up" in #8 made me LAUGH OUT LOUD!

Jeremiah said...

i think maybe the last word of #5 should be "ungodly", no? typo maybe?

Lindsey said...

yes. yes. yes. #9 is definitely right on! :)

Bianca said...

AMAZING! I'm going to steal it :)

Mama in Uganda said...

Married for 8+ years with 10 children! This is awesome. May the Lord bless you for your desire to please HIM.

P.S. I follow your mom's blog.